Episode 155: Did Joshua Harris Kiss Dating Goodbye?

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In 1997, 21-year-old Joshua Harris wrote a revolutionary book on dating. The book would go on to be an international bestseller and catapult Joshua into the Christian spotlight. I Kissed Dating Goodbye was embraced by the homeschool community and the Christian church at large, and continues to shape the consciousness of how Christians view singleness, dating, and relationships. 

Lately, though, Joshua Harris has weathered a battering of online criticism from disenchanted Christians. Some have lashed out at Harris directly for I Kissed Dating Goodbye and others have set up websites dedicated to Harris’ “victims”. Many have called for Joshua Harris to apologize for what they believe was hurtful teaching, while others are applauding him for his stance and encouraging him to stand his ground. Harris has felt pressure from all sides to do or say something. 

Are you ready to hear from Joshua himself? We're discussing the book, the movement, and what Joshua believes are the errors of I Kissed Dating Goodbye as well as where he thinks he got it right in this compelling and lively interview with Joshua Harris. 

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Episode 154: Avoiding Spiritual Abuse

Episode 154: Avoiding Spiritual Abuse

Spiritual abuse has been alive and well in the homeschool community for years. From early leaders like Bill Gothard/ATI to the deceptive charm of Doug Phillips and the Vision Forum/Family Integrated Church movement, homeschoolers often fall prey to the abuse of misguided leaders.

Joining Fletch and Kendra for the last full episode of Homeschooling in Real Life is Julie Anne Smith from the Spiritual Sounding Board website to discuss openly how the church and homeschoolers still fall into the trap of spiritual abuse.

This just might be our most important episode ever!

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Episode 152: Facetime With Kristen Hatton

Episode 152: Facetime With Kristen Hatton

Author Kristen Hatton joins us for an important discussion that encompasses the world our teen girls are growing up in. From eating disorders to the impact of social media on a young woman's self image, Kristen's latest book, Facetime: Your Identity in a Selfie World, is a significant guide to pointing our teenaged daughters to Christ to find their acceptance and worth.

Raising daughters? This episode is just for you.

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Episode 151: Knights in Training

Episode 151: Knights in Training

Raising boys can be tricky business, no? And if we have a heart to see our boys really change the world with solid character, big ideas, and compassionate hearts, we can feel defeated when we see them being goofy and a little out of control as kids. 

That's exactly why we wanted to have a solid conversation with friend and author Heather Haupt, who has written a book about teaching our boys what it means to take the high road and be "knights" who fight for honor and protect the weak in our world. 

Heather has hands-on tools and plenty of encouragement to share. We love this episode!

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Episode 148: Boys to Men

Episode 148: Boys to Men

Our listeners love when we podcast about the process of raising children into adulthood. But every time we talk about raising kids or the transitions into teen years or launching our adolescents out into the world, we are asked constantly for resources.

On this episode we introduce our listeners to one of our favorite new resources for young men. Our old friend, Barrett Johnson from I.N.F.O. for Families, is releasing a new book called The Young Man's Guide to Awesomeness and we love what he has put together.

This is a special episode because both Fletch and Barrett were home alone for the recording. Join in as the two guys get on the microphones without their wives for a discussion about how to walk into awkward conversations with young men and encourage them how to guard their hearts, get the girl, and save the world!

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Episode 146: Babysitting

Episode 146: Babysitting

Some of our best episodes have been created as the result of our listeners' great ideas, and this is one of those episodes! We're talking all about leaving younger siblings with older siblings in the role of babysitter: the ins and outs, the expectations, and other various aspects of that realty.

We hope it sets the stage for good discussion with your own kids and allows you to successfully encourage your own in-house babysitters.

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Episode 143: 5 Apps Every Parent Should Know

Episode 143: 5 Apps Every Parent Should Know

Apps! Mobile phones! iPads! Technology! It all moves so fast and changes seemingly overnight. How do we keep up with what our kids are asking to use or are being exposed to, even if we are trying to keep it all in balance?

Join us on this highly informative episode of Homeschooling in Real Life as we welcome author and speaker Leah Nieman to discuss five apps every parent should know about right now. It's an up-to-the-minute conversation, but even if you're listening months or even years from its publication, you'll be able to glean from the discussion about how to handle all of the emerging technology in our über fast-paced world.

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Episode 140: Love, Honor, and Virtue

Episode 140: Love, Honor, and Virtue

Two of our favorite guests, Hal and Melanie Young, join us on this episode of Homeschooling in Real Life for a candid discussion about technology, temptation, addiction, and culture. We talk about the false sense of security that homeschooling can give us and how we can equip our kids to make choices that set them up for healthy sexual relationships.

As always, Hal and Melanie are engaging and intelligent, and we appreciate their honesty as we discuss a Biblical and God-honoring approach to love, honor, and virtue.

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Episode 139: Homeschooling and Adoption

Episode 139: Homeschooling and Adoption

Since the very beginning of the Homeschooling in Real Life podcast, our listeners have been requesting that we do an episode on homeschooling and adoption. Why did it take us so long? Because just the right person to address the topic came along and we feel we couldn't have given you anyone better!

Guest Tricia Goyer is a prolific author and homeschooling mom, and she and her husband have adopted seven children in the past few years alone! We think you'll be encouraged and inspired by their story, and we hope it helps you to hear the joy that comes from obeying what God asks of us.

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Episode 126: Affording College

Episode 126: Affording College

When our students hope to go to college, the perennial question remains: how in the world will they pay for it? We decided to return to the topic of affording college with College Prep Genius Jean Burk because we know she has valuable information to share.

We think you'll be encouraged and feel equipped as you help your college-bound student get the education they are pursuing. Don’t forget to enter the College Prep Genius giveaway below for a valuable one-hour personal coaching session with Jean Burk!

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Episode 125: The Purity Culture with Sheila Gregoire

Episode 125: The Purity Culture with Sheila Gregoire

Author and speaker Sheila Gregoire joins us in the studio again this week as we discuss the phenomenon that is the "purity culture" and its affect on the Christian homeschooling community. How do we convey a Biblical view of sex and marriage to our kids without strapping them with the burden and bondage of religious behaviorism? How can we equip them to enter into marriage with a healthy, godly view of sex and what it contributes to a marriage?

Join us for a lively and helpful discussion on the purity culture.

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Episode 120: The Disappointed Parent

Episode 120: The Disappointed Parent

We have big dreams when we begin parenting: how many children we'll have, what we'll do together, how our relationship will be when they are adults. It doesn't take long for us to realize that we're not in control of who or how our children are, and soon we can find ourselves disappointed that we didn't have a child like X, Y, and Z. 

How do we respond when we finally acknowledge that we are disappointed? How does the gospel inform our choices, our conversations, and our relationship to our kids? Listen in as Fletch and Kendra discuss The Disappointed Parent.

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Episode 119: How to Be a Good Sister

Episode 119: How to Be a Good Sister

Sisters, sisters, there were never such devoted sisters . . . except when they're not. Sister relationships come with their own unique dynamics and drama. On this episode of Homeschooling in Real Life, the three Fletcher sisters join Kendra in the studio for a lively chat about what's difficult about being so close in age, what's fun about sharing a room, and the best way to encourage each other. Grab your daughters and listen along!

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Episode 115: Sex Ed for Parents

Episode 115: Sex Ed for Parents

We talk often of sex education for kids and having "the talk", but what about us? What about parents who enter marriage ill-prepared or who don't know how to communicate their sexual needs and desires to each other?

This episode was inspired by a Homeschooling in Real Life listener who wrote to tell us that they didn't communicate beyond "don't do it" to their daughter and she became pregnant at 16, but that the underlying issue was their own lack of communication and sex ed for themselves. Join us and authors Barrett and Jenifer Johnson for a candid discussion on sex ed for parents.

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Episode 110: Talking With Kids About Tragedy

Episode 110: Talking With Kids About Tragedy

The world seems to be going crazy and the news is full of stories that are difficult for kids to process and understand. How do we talk to our children about race issues, murder, terrorism, and other tragic current events? 

We discuss ages and appropriateness of content and conversation, how to address our children's fears, and of course the gospel.

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Episode 108: Homeschooling Multiple Ages

Episode 108: Homeschooling Multiple Ages

How does a homeschooling parent possibly educate older kids while at the same time juggling preschoolers, toddlers, and babies? Is it even realistic to think we could do a good job while spinning so many homeschool plates?

On this episode of Homeschooling in Real Life, Fletch and Kendra talk about how they've managed to homeschool 8 kids, how to structure a day so that schooling actually gets done, and how mom can survive and thrive during the demanding years of homeschooling multiple ages.

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Episode 105: College Admissions and Helicopter Parents

Episode 105: College Admissions and Helicopter Parents

What happens when parents just can't give the reins over to their kids when it's time for them to head to college? On this episode of Homeschooling in Real Life, we're talking college admissions and helicopter parenting with Patrick Henry College admissions counselor Aimee Stauf. 

As a former homeschooled student, residential life advisor, and now college admissions counselor, Aimee has seen and experienced what happens when students haven't had to make their own decisions or weather the realities of adult life without the safety net of mom and dad. 

We're talking all about giving kids the chance to fail, how to let them take the lead when it comes time to choose a life path, and how the gospel informs the decisions homeschooled students must make after they leave home.

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Episode 103: Unrealistic Expectations

Episode 103: Unrealistic Expectations

Join us for this week's episode as we chat with Kathy Lee, mom of many and co-author of The Homegrown Preschooler. Kathy is a child development specialist who has homeschooled and raised kids and now speaks all over the country to parents (often with several of her kids in tow!)

We discuss the growing trend of high academic expectations at younger ages, play-based preschool, and developing relationships with our young kids and teens that last well into their adulthood.

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Episode 98: Affording College

Episode 98: Affording College

Part two of our series on financial fear, Affording College hits the topics we're all nervous about if we have a student who is eyeing a college career: How do we help them pay for four years of schooling? What things can we do to assist with the application process? And finally, should every kid even go to college?

Fletch and Kendra speak from their own experiences with their oldest 4 college-bound students and offer ideas about how to think beyond writing a check or taking on massive student loan debt.

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Episode 85: Black Sheep Homeschoolers Rebroadcast

Episode 85: Black Sheep Homeschoolers Rebroadcast

In this second installment of our most popular episodes from 2015, Fletch and Kendra respond to a listener's email asking, "What if your child is the homeschool group black sheep, the one the other kids are not allowed to play with?"

It's a tender topic and one many of you felt hit close to home. Let's listen again and hear how we might pour grace over our "black sheep" kids.

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